I've been answering calls from London over the last few days, setting up the filming in my office of a response to a "polyamory" convention being held around Seattle sometime soon. A London TV station is covering a new group, the "polyamorists" who have not only coined an unwieldy new term, but have also found a use for it. It's the new name given to people who choose to have more than one lover at a time. The London TV station wanted a response from a local clergyman who, they hoped, would give some spicy condemnations of this new group.
My wife's first response to the upcoming interview was a semi-suspicious, "Why do they want to talk to YOU?" I assured her I had no special knowledge of the topic (other than a doctorate in gender, sexuality, and spirituality -- which I'm sure the London station knows nothing about), and that the interview came exclusively because of my role at the Church Council. She then asked, "What are you going to say?"
There are some obvious responses to the idea of polyamory:
- 1) It's contrary to our Christian tradition of monogamy,
2) It gives a fancy name designed to serve as a fig leaf for promiscuity,
3) It denies what we're coming to know about marriage -- that just 2 people living together in love presents a substantial lifelong challenge, and
4) Since apparently most polyamorists are men with multiple female partners (polygyny) isn't this likely just another vehicle for the exploitation of women by men?